Remember: Life sucks and it isn’t fair

This is just a general reminder that life sucks, not a navel-gazing, self-pitying examination of my own life. I’ll save that for another day. This is just a rambling rant that I felt the need to write down.

Most of us who don’t live in war zones get complacent. We like safety and comfort. We like predictability. We want tomorrow to be only moderately different than today. Not exactly the same, mind you. We saw Groundhog Day already and are pretty sure that would be a nightmare.

Even if we do like to mix it up some — Skydiving, anyone? — we are still looking for exciting, exhilarating life experiences, not life changing catastrophes.

But the reality is that life is filled with pain and heartache. The reality is that danger is ever-present and tomorrow, let alone the next second, isn’t guaranteed.

Too often, we come up against this hard reality and we wonder “Why me? What did I do to deserve this?” Yes, something you did probably contributed to how your life sucks, but even if you lived perfectly and we can find nothing to fault you with, life sucks and, worse, it isn’t fair so your life will suck or, if you’ve somehow been able to live a life of pure bliss in which you did nothing wrong (ha!), you are still going to die.

But that isn’t all. Before you die, you’ll see people you care about, even those you love, having a sucky life and dying.

So, yeah, your life will suck. You’ll end up miserable and experiencing more pain than you deserve.

Instead of asking “Why me?” — instead of thinking that you shouldn’t have to live in misery and fear, remember that everyone’s life sucks. If you spend a little time reflecting on it, you’ll probably realize things could be worse. At the very least, you should realize that your misery isn’t unique. Everyone else’s life sucks at some point, so a better question is “Why not me?”

Instead of looking at the person you despise who is in misery and feeling smug or thinking “Well, that person deserved it!” try asking yourself “Why not me?” If you do that right — if you realize there really is little reason for you to escape suffering for what you’ve done while that person is in misery — you’ll find yourself hoping that the person you despise quickly recovers.

Yes, life sucks. Yours, mine, and everyone else’s. There is no escaping it. Misery and suffering are inevitable.

5 thoughts on “Remember: Life sucks and it isn’t fair”

  1. Mark, you come close to suggesting the title of a book I’m still waiting for someone to write. First, everybody has heard of the book WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE. And they think it tells (at least some of ) their story).
    So then, when is somebody going to write WHEN GOOD THINGS HAPPEN TO BAD PEOPLE?
    I know, probably never. Who would buy it? Nobody thinks they are bad people. But seriously, doesn’t all the good stuff that happens to all of us less- than-perfect people also cry out for some explanation?

    1. You really should write that book. We all need the reminder that the rain falls on the just and the unjust. And we need to be reminded that the rain is considered to be a good thing.

  2. Reminds ME of Ecclesiastes:
    As everyone comes, so they depart,
    and what do they gain,
    since they toil for the wind?
    All their days they eat in darkness,
    with great frustration, affliction and anger.

    But then Solomon goes on to say that it’s good to enjoy your work, food, etc. and that the ability to “accept your lot and be happy in your toil” is a gift of God. More encouraging perspective.

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